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11-02-2003 9:31 PM
stegen
Re: For all the dads out there

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Mattress : Don't sell her quad/motorcycle/dirtbike because you're afraid she'll get hurt * *
um, hello, I already sold that to ya
11-02-2003 9:28 PM
WildBillF1
Re: For all the dads out there

As a father never shave your ass, wear a thong, and post the pictures on the internet. On seeing such a thing, the poor child could be scarred for life.
10-30-2003 4:14 AM
Mattress
Re: For all the dads out there

Don't sell her quad/motorcycle/dirtbike because you're afraid she'll get hurt
10-30-2003 1:44 AM
DevilDog
Re: For all the dads out there

Try and put money aside for her future such as college. Upromise.com is a great program. If you can now, set up a college plan like a 529 plan. Open a custodial savings account and save all the loose change from your everyday pockets and put it into that. Amazing how so little adds up over time.

Always keep your cool around her by being calm and in control. Little ones are sponges and take in everything they see and hear, more than you realize. My son is almost 3 and I still am amazed at how perceptive he is and has always been.

Read books to her, even if only 1 or 2 a day, but make it a point to. The little bit of time doing that is quality time.

And whatever happened to bed times? My son is in bed by 8 every evening, for the time being. Seems like neigbors have their little ones down around 10 or 11 all the time. WTF. Sleep for little ones is important for development.
10-29-2003 11:05 PM
Repsol_69
Re: For all the dads out there

Not a father but...

Never miss a date with her. If you make plans with her, keep them.

If she wants to do something (music, dancing, etc.) let her. I had the opportunity to play Ice Hockey in the Olympics, but my parents didn't want me leaving home alone. There may have been more to that, but i still think... what if?

And above all cherish every day, because tomorrow is not a sure thing!

Good luck.
10-29-2003 2:15 PM
Holeshot
Re: For all the dads out there

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roadrunner954 : [i]EXCELLENT ADVICE - ALL OF IT[/i}
An older person once told me, 'The best gift you can give your child is a brother or sister, if you love your mate and things are stable in life its the best thing you can provide.'

After seeing my two boys play together, I think she was right…
After having out second child just over a year ago.. this last one really came home. Althouth they fight at time (brother/sister crap) my daughter (the oldest) has someone to play with ALL the time, like when daddy has to work and mommy had to take care of the house. Both of them have another human to interact with.

And playing with the two of them, watching them work together to 'take the old man down' when we rough-house or when both are sitting on one's lap while you read a book. Truely priceless moments.

Your priorities must shift from yourself to them. And giving the mom time off (my wife is a full-time homemaker, we are blessed that I can run my business from home and it's successful enough that she can stay home) is SO important for so many reasons (her sanity, social development, your sanity, social development).

I applaud you Stegen for looking for ways to make your childs life better. I truely regret I was not 'on board' for my first child. Precious moments lost forever. Don't make that sort of mistake.
10-29-2003 1:22 PM
Crash
Re: For all the dads out there

A lot of great advice here.. and I can't really say much more, but I'll try

But with my 2 year old I feel that all I can do is play with him, no matter how tired I am after work and school, I'll be late to work because I want to play with him. *

If they bring you a book, read it!!! *And read it again if they ask, regardless of how many times they say 'Again' *

Talk to them, not at them. *I never used baby talk, and it has greatly helped his language development. *He may not understand everything I say, but I take the time to explain things.

If I had a daughter, boy friends would be target practice. *With my son it's important to teach manners and respect. *People always compliment him on his manners and I take great pride in that. *

Just remember what it was like to be a kid, and raise them accordingly. *Be a guide and mentor, not so much a friend. *Love them and play with them as much as possible.



10-29-2003 10:41 AM
ccwilli3
Re: For all the dads out there

make sure they see you with a BOOK, so they will understand that reading is something people just do...

I never saw my parents read much, so I didn't. Luckily I still made it through college after breaking some habits... They'll be WAY better off if you teach them to read and read a lot early on.

And don't be afraid to discipline them... Let them know when they mess up, but ALWAYS be right there when they do well!

Thats my advice... But there is no rule of thumb for this stuff...
10-29-2003 10:38 AM
BillAce
Re: For all the dads out there

My daughter just turned 2 years old. I work 60 Hrs a week Mon-Sat and my wife commutes to NYC so she's away from home 12 hrs Mon-Fri. We both have bad days, rough commute, headaches etc. but all of that is cured by Jillian. Nothing else is important once we're with her. I get her ready for day care in the AM and we play with her until Tub time at night, when my wife gets her time with her. I feel like I owe this little girl everything. Everyone else gave great advice, The only advice I can give is don't squander an opportunity to teach you child something or to learn from them. I've been told there is no greater love than that for a child, and love is sacrifice, so just do what you know is the right thing.

Bill
10-28-2003 8:33 PM
GhostRider
Re: For all the dads out there

Boyfriends are not for target practice.
10-28-2003 1:55 PM
stegen
Re: For all the dads out there

thanks for all the advice guys. keep em comin if theres more
10-28-2003 1:39 PM
ND4SPD
Re: For all the dads out there

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luvtolean : And a serious pet peeve of mine:

THE TV IS NOT A BABYSITTER!!
Excellent point. Neither are video/computer games
10-28-2003 1:37 PM
deez
Re: For all the dads out there

Don't let her open up emails from nigerians.
10-28-2003 12:27 PM
luvtolean
Re: For all the dads out there

I am not a Dad but I am the oldest of my generation. *So, I've done my share of parenting.

Don't ever underestimate your kid. *They understand far more than you think.

I remember my parents used to spell things out thinking I didn't understand. *I also remember not letting on that I knew what they were talking about....

A child's mind is a sponge. *Do your best not to fight or argue in front of her. *She is learning your traits, if you yell and scream a lot, so will your kid. *If you are always high strung and nervous, pretty likely your kid will be too.

It is not the school's sole responsibility to educate your kid. *The building blocks should all be in place by the time kindergarden starts. *There are stores full of stuff for teaching young kids, it will make a huge difference.

And a serious pet peeve of mine:

THE TV IS NOT A BABYSITTER!!







10-28-2003 10:42 AM
bubba
Re: For all the dads out there

dont pimp her out until she is at least 4. keep her out of child porn until 8. dont let her mom find out any of the above
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