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post #1 of 18 Old 05-26-2005, 3:24 AM Thread Starter
 
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...mourning the loss of a child, what do you say to a friend...

guys i was just awoken by a phone call from a pretty good friend of mine for the past 2 years and she told me that her son (14 months old) was dead, the tears instantly hit my eyes and i lost all my thought process... i couldnt even speak, i just felt the need to hold my little girl close.... she proceeded to tell me a bit of the story in between both of us crying, the rest i read on the NEWS LINK. no punishment short of death even seems fitting and i have this strange feeling the boys father may proceed with just that, i know i would, f**k the consequences....

please remember Zach in your prayers........

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I am at a loss for words. My prayers go out to you and family involved.
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wow, sorry to hear that.i couldnt imagine. guess I should start playing more gently with my kids. I just laid my little baby boy down for sleep too.
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Dude, sorry to hear! I hope the tool fukn fries, cuz that's just wrong! WTF is wrong w/ people?
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Hope the prick gets ripped up while he's locked up..

My condolensces to you and the babies parents.
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guys i was just awoken by a phone call from a pretty good friend of mine for the past 2 years and she told me that her son (14 months old) was dead, the tears instantly hit my eyes and i lost all my thought process... i couldnt even speak, i just felt the need to hold my little girl close.... she proceeded to tell me a bit of the story in between both of us crying, the rest i read on the NEWS LINK. no punishment short of death even seems fitting and i have this strange feeling the boys father may proceed with just that, i know i would, f**k the consequences....

please remember Zach in your prayers........
There is not much you can say just be there to support your friend.

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Just be a friend, then make sure her and the surviving child have a safe place no where near that pond scum and never go near him again. Usually a thing that would hit a child like that was likely beating her also (and/or the other child) later be sure she understands that is not the norm and should boot a guy out or leave in a nanosecond if it happens once. My condolences to you and your friend and her family.

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There is not much you can say just be there to support your friend.

my thoughts precisely....there is nothing you can say or do to bring Zach back or erase her pain....nothing....the only thing you can do at this point is to be there for her, be her friend and offer your support....that will be enough....

What kind of human being hits a baby because he's upset with his ex? I just don't understand some people sometimes....being the father of a set of 20-month old twins, that story absolutely broke my heart....I have a sick feeling in my stomach b/c of it....sad, just sad....my prayers go out to her and her family....

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Re: ...mourning the loss of a child, what do you say to a friend...

I read part of it...not all of it because I was too angry to continue.

Best thing you can do it be there for your friend. She is going to need some help with dealing with the loss of her child, and the loss of someone she probably thought was a good man. I might even push gently in the direction of professional help...this is quite a blow.

Very sad and very troubling news indeed.

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Very sorry to hear. As others have said there can be nothing said to ease the pain. Be a shoulder to cry on, and be there to listen and help when needed. Most likely the presence of her other child will be the only thing that will end up soothing her for a while.

On a side note. That ****er needs to die. But that will probably get taken care of in prison. Strange how people who hurt children don't usually last long in prison. If he does get out he probably last long afterwards.
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my thoughts precisely....there is nothing you can say or do to bring Zach back or erase her pain....nothing....the only thing you can do at this point is to be there for her, be her friend and offer your support....that will be enough....

What kind of human being hits a baby because he's upset with his ex? I just don't understand some people sometimes....being the father of a set of 20-month old twins, that story absolutely broke my heart....I have a sick feeling in my stomach b/c of it....sad, just sad....my prayers go out to her and her family....
Very well said, Mike.

Stopsign, my deepest condolences to you and your friend. That incident makes me as equally sad as angry, and I hope that piece of dogshit gets what he deserves (and I won't go into those details, but it's ugly).

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What kind of human being hits a baby because he's upset with his ex?
What kind of human being hits a baby for ANY reason? I know that's what you think too, but these kinds of stories just make me want to go on a rampage, seeking out anyone that has injured or killed a child and just fricking torture and kill them. I know that if anyone ever laid a hand on my son, you'd have one helluva time keeping me off of them.
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Re: ...mourning the loss of a child, what do you say to a friend...

All I can say to that is ...WOW!

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He will be remembered in my families thoughts and prayers.... R.I.P Zach

WTF is wrong with some people?!?! I hope this guy gets what he deserves in prison.....

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Very sorry to hear stopsign. News like that tears at my heart. All you can do is be there for her and the family.

My family and I will saya prayer for Zach.
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Prayer enroute.

In the end, the evildoer will get what's coming...

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