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Re: Quantiy or Quality ??
I have a different perspective on this, since my 9 year old son grew up in a divorced family.
I moved 90 minutes away from where his mother lives when he was 2, but make it a point to drive there to pick him up every other weekend, sometimes every weekend.
While we don't spend a great quantity of time together, the quality of the time we spend together is priceless. My ex and I are both remarried, and I am happy to say that the relationship I have with my ex is amicable, so there's no "you mother said this", "your father did that" going on with either of his parents.
Among other things, we inline skate, skateboard, ride bikes, play video games, toss a baseball around, and he even spends time with my current wife doing what she loves, event riding on her horse. (my son is taking lessons on how to ride from my wife) I told him that he can ride 2-up with me when he turns 10, so he can't wait until September of '07.
We talk on the phone at least twice a week, usually for 10 minutes, just to catch up on what's been happening. His attention span on the phone isn't usually that long, so we keep conversation to general topics.
I guess what I'm getting at is that my son KNOWS that I love him and would do anyting for him, even though we don't spend much time together.
Ride Red, or Go Home!