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post #1 of 37 Old 10-10-2003, 2:41 PM Thread Starter
 
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About a year ago I found out my wife was seeing another guy ('we're just friends, I swear, I'd never go near him&#33. I left, but we got back together about six months later. We have a son and I said I could look past the affair if it ends and NEVER happens again. Well, I'm an idiot. Things have been great, but I'm getting those 'vibes' again. I noticed her T Mobile bill never seems to be at the house, and I've seen his number on her phone (only incoming, so maybe he's calling, and she's not answering). I tried calling T Mobile to access her account, but it's passworded, and when I asked her, she won't give me the password. What do I do? She swears she hasn't talked to him in months. Anyone know of any ways of getting T Mobile to loosen their lips? Any help/advice would be great, this is killing me.

P.S. Confronting the guy is sort of out of the question, he's a cop, he's HUGE, and he's from a pretty corrupt city and probably wouldn't have any problem making my life miserable, or worse.

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The fact that she will not give you the password raises a red flag. If there was nothing to hide, it would be a non-issue.

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Take your boy and get the hell away from her, things like that never get better
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Man, I feel bad for you. I know you're thinking about your son, but it doesn't sound good to me. If you've given her a second chance, she should be completely open and forthright about everything. Kinda sounds like she's hiding things.

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Just an idle thought:

I wonder what his boss would think about this?


Anyway, I hope you get this cleared up. I can see how it would really trouble you. Her hiding the phone records is a baaad sign....

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Ask her to leave the phone in the house to see how many times he calls. If you have his number just call him, and ask if he is still seeing your wife if he says yes. Take your son and roll out.

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You could install a spy program on the computer that captures keystrokes...

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figment : Quote (Schwaberts @ Oct. 10 2003, 1:41pm)P.S. *Confronting the guy is sort of out of the question, he's a cop, he's HUGE, and he's from a pretty corrupt city and probably wouldn't have any problem making my life miserable, or worse.
Just an idle thought:

I wonder what his boss would think about this?


Anyway, I hope you get this cleared up. I can see how it would really trouble you. Her hiding the phone records is a baaad sign....
His boss, the mayor, is in jail for embezzlement, fraud, and mob connections.

Oh, and having her leave the phone won't work, she's home way more than me and used to (maybe still is) erase his number & messages.




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Get your son and leave. She shouldn't be hiding stuff from her husband, especially with such a topic. Pack your bags, and leave....better yet, tell her to get out!
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Man, what a lousy situation.

A private investigator may be able to access those phone records.
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Totally chitty situation man, I feel for you.

As a father, I would hate to break the family apart, but that is a decision she has already made for you. Take your son and find a better more fulfilling life.....

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I would hire a private detective. I know this could be expensive, but the lives of everyone in your family will change when you come up with the answer, so I would want to definitely know the truth. The evasiveness of your wife does seem fishy, but the fact of the matter is that you truly don't know. I would find out for sure before breaking apart your family. As a man that went through a horrible divorce, and an even worse custody battle involving my son from my first marriage, I know how difficult life can get for you and your child.

If the detective finds out that she is not seeing this guy or anyone else, you get the satisfaction that she is being faithful, and she will never know that you took these steps to find the truth.

If you find out that she has been cheating, you can take whatever action you choose, and know in your heart that you have done everything you could to be a good husband and father.

I would also have a consultation with a lawyer before doing anything with a detective, so he can tell you what can, or cannot, be used in court against her in regards to custody of children, property, etc... A lawyer would be able to tell you if a detective is the right way to go, and if anything discovered by him can be used in court. Even if it can't be used in court against her, you can find out the truth, and bring a little sanity to your life. The worst part is agonizing over not knowing.

Hell, if you can't afford a detective, rent or borrow a car and follow her yourself. Either that or ask a trusted friend to do this for you.

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figment : You could install a spy program on the computer that captures keystrokes...
ditto! *works well! * keystroke logger!

I have said it many times...cheat once, and they will never stop. *don't spend a bunch of doh on a PI...play her game...do it yourself...show up at random times...trace calls, its not that hard to find out the dirty on your own. BUT, if you are going to go to court...I guess its best to hire someone that will take the stand.

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ND4SPDSHO : Get your son and leave. *She shouldn't be hiding stuff from her husband, especially with such a topic. *Pack your bags, and leave....better yet, tell her to get out!
I'm wid ju mang.

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Re: Cheating wife?

I work at a phone/ISP company

Its easy to trace calls...but, we only release to police. not PI's. if hes local 5-0...go for state police.

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