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post #1 of 37 Old 02-06-2004, 12:15 AM Thread Starter
 
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Need help with problematic roommate.

My room mate, beside gf, is my friend "Tom". I have been friends with him for about 10 years. love the kid to death. only real friend i have. anyway. I have a problem with him. Hes a slob and he stinks. He has always been a total pig. Example. in his room, he has never vaccumed and we have been here for 6 months. he, at one time, had about 25 empty pop cans all over his room. he leaves food in there for days. that is just his room. I literaly have to yell and tell him to do **** around the house. i have to tell him to do the dishes that have been sitting there for days. hes never swept, never mopped, never cleaned the bathroom, never vaccumed the living room, even on his days off, which he is home all day.

Next thing, the big thing, his hygenie. When we first moved in together, i bought 3 bars of soap, one for each, to get us going. i lost track of mine and tossed all of them. now, this was 4 months ago, and he still has yet to buy a bar of soap. he does shower every other day but i never see him use a washcloth or even if he did, what does he use to clean himself. He is on the same bottle shampoo as the day we moved in. Anyway. he has a ass problem, thats the biggest thing of them all. Example, when he shits, there is always little flakes of **** in the toilet afterward. he took a **** once and left blood and skin on the bowl!! His ass smells so bad. Example. He comes home from work 2 days ago. he is about 10 feet from me and Tasha Standing in the doorway and we can smell his ass from the couch and he didnt walk anywhere yet. and he showered the day before. I just bought $1300 in living room furniture and it already stinks cuz of his ass. if he sits down and watches a movie, when he gets up it STINKS, like gag stinks.

I dont know how to talk to him about it. people used to call him stinky in school so i know it hurts his feelings. Any ideas on how to confront? Be straight forward? I dont want to lose $1300 in new furniture cuz of stinky-ass-syndrome.

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Be real with him. If he is a true friend he might understand where you are coming from but I dont think there is any easy way to tell him. just my .02$
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You gotta tell him straight up. I must admit, I nearly fell outta my chair reading your post, but it's a real dampenener of a situation. Tell him to get his act together or move out. Simple as that
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You gotta tell him straight up. I must admit, I nearly fell outta my chair reading your post, but it's a real dampenener of a situation. Tell him to get his act together or move out. Simple as that
I suppose, from third person, its pretty funny.
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From a 3rd person view
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Anyway. he has a ass problem, thats the biggest thing of them all. Example, when he shits, there is always little flakes of **** in the toilet afterward. he took a **** once and left blood and skin on the bowl!! His ass smells so bad. Example. He comes home from work 2 days ago. he is about 10 feet from me and Tasha Standing in the doorway and we can smell his ass from the couch and he didnt walk anywhere yet
That is some funny stuff
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Re: Need help with problematic roommate.

stegen, first of all thank you for the very graphic post! And I totally agree with ND4, although I don't think the reason for his "about fell out of the chair" comment was with humor, but more with disbelief.

I once roomed with a guy like that - would do anything for him, 'cause we were such close friends. However, his "piggyness" ultimately caused us to move apart. What I'm trying to say is, I don't think this guy's social habits are gonna change. Boot him, as tactfully as possible, and move on with your lives, because otherwise it is gonna get ugly. Believe me, he ain't gonna change!
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You can't have a friend and roommate both. The two are entirely different. Tell him he's a great friend but you can't live with him. Living with others is a very difficult thing to do. It's best left to someone of the opposite sex that has an interest in you.

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I lived with him a few years ago and it wasnt nearly as bad
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You can't have a friend and roommate both. The two are entirely different. Tell him he's a great friend but you can't live with him. Living with others is a very difficult thing to do. It's best left to someone of the opposite sex that has an interest in you.
I share a flat/apartment with a friend, and it's not a problem... He IS lazy, but I can imagine people worse than he is

I'd rather share an apartment with a lazy,friendly boy that I sort of know than to leave my keys to a supposedly clean stranger.

My flatmate uses soap though Tell the guy he smells like If your GF knows him well, that might make a more serious impression?

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stegen, first of all thank you for the very graphic post! And I totally agree with ND4, although I don't think the reason for his "about fell out of the chair" comment was with humor, but more with disbelief.

I once roomed with a guy like that - would do anything for him, 'cause we were such close friends. However, his "piggyness" ultimately caused us to move apart. What I'm trying to say is, I don't think this guy's social habits are gonna change. Boot him, as tactfully as possible, and move on with your lives, because otherwise it is gonna get ugly. Believe me, he ain't gonna change!


As much as it pains me to do so...I agree with the misdeveloped desert runt...get him out now and then try to salvage the friendship...Sounds like you have mates for a bit...might be worth it....


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Re: Need help with problematic roommate.

I had a room-mate who was a slob with his room and big parts of the common area. Since I collected rent and managed the common expenses, I simply hired a maid to clean the whole apartment every two weeks and tacked his share on to the monthly expenses. I did this after two requests for him to change his ways, each time forewarning what actions I would take. This resolved that problem nicely for all concerned.

Regarding the hygene problem, well, you have no choice but to confront him on that one. Thats not healthy for anyone.
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I did the whole "living with boyfriend and having another roommate". He was an absolute horrid slob.(the other roommate) The grossest things were his bathroom habits as well.....left crap all over the toilet seat, when he puked it was splattered all over the bathroom and mind you he didn't clean.

One day he decided to crush an entire bag of Doritos and sprinkled the crumbs all over the apartment because I had told him that he needed to start cleaning around the house.

I feel your pain.....best thing to do is send him on his way.
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the end result is you are either going to move out or you are going to kick him out. he will not change those habits, they sound like they have been there for quite some time and no friend will break him - especially if his parents couldn't.

I would start looking for a new roomate, or just pony up and buy the house with the gf
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after you kick him out, go bust his mom's ass man, there is no excuse for that crap...

Thats just nasty.
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Maybe the cat has Crohn's disease. A buddy of mine has it and he can stink up a joint quick.

I came here to chew bubble gum and to kick some ass...and I'm all out of bubble gum.
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