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ok, my best friend is a ####ing idiot. He's been seeing this girl (bitch) for almost a year and they are planning on going to vegas next spring and get married. What the ####! She is the most miserable person I know, does nothing but nag him, controls the living #### out of him, and is fugly on top of it all (so he's certainly not in it for the sex???) I don't know what to do. I hate to see him with her but don't feel like it's my place to tell him to ditch the bitch. They fight more than they get along.

Here's a few examples of the bitchiness, she told him if he goes to any gentlemens clubs or gets any strippers for his bachelor party she will not marry him??

That's not even the worst, she is so ####ing controlling she watches the credit card statements to see what he's spending money on. Big deal you say, well we were working (In Massachusetts) and got off a few hours early so we drove to a friends house in New Hampshire to say hi, he stopped at a gas station in NH to get gas and within 10 minutes of leaving the gas station she called and was bitching about what the #### we were doing in NH. She sits on her fat ugly ass all day and checks the online statements to see where he is. I'd ####ing shoot the bitch in the head if it were me.

She ####ing calls every day at 5:10 (she gets out of work at 5 and it takes her 10 minutes to get home) and asks when he'll be home because she's home and he should be there waiting for her, WHAT THE ####!!!! We own a cabin in the white mountains in NH where we go snowmobiling and ride our 4 wheelers, well he's not allowed to go anymore because she doesn't like my brother who goes with us! And he says, ok dear i'll stay home.

Sorry, I know this is long and I said #### alot but this is bugging the #### out of me and the only reason I brought this up is because I had to stay home and drink beer tonight because he couldn't go out because she had a headache, that is SUCH BULLSHIT!!!

What do I do, I hate to lose my best friend but I can't stand his BITCH and she never lets him do anything. (Not to mention she bitches to everyone)!!!

Thanks for the space!

Mark
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The only advice is really sitting down and voicing your concerns, letting him know in a nonconfrontational way how you feel, with out calling her a B*tch, but in relationships like that they DO usually have to learn the hardway. And there is a good chance you might loose a friend. Hopefully someone else can give you some better advice, I'm not too experienced with this kind of thing.

Long time ago my ex and I had a friend that starting dating a girl (already had 2 kids from previous men) pretty much like you describe above. Next think you know they are getting married. Well then at the ceremony when they were exchanging vows his line is 'I give my life to you...', You would think the correct thing for her to say is 'I give my life to you....' right?? HELLZ No....right there infront of EVERYONE she responds 'I accept your life' F*ck that!

Well she moves them down to Georgia, he's not allowed to watch any rated R movies, makes him cover his eyes if a hot chick is on tv, sells his Playstation and games, goes to his work and threatens all the women there if they talk to him about anything other than work. He's not even allowed to go visit his family...

It's sad when people get in relationships like that.
 

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Sorry to say, but it sounds like you have already lost your friend - his choice too. She sounds like a real loser (I would personally have kicked her out of my life long ago) but if he is willing to put up with that blatant sh!t, sounds like they were made for each other. My condolences to your friend...
 

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ND4SPDSHO : Quote (2k2954 @ Sep. 19 2003, 10:42pm)Here's a few examples of the bitchiness, she told him if he goes to any gentlemens clubs or gets any strippers for his bachelor party she will not marry him??
There's your answer
Thats what I was thinking...
 

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ccwilli3 : Quote (ND4SPDSHO @ Sep. 19 2003, 11:27pm)Quote (2k2954 @ Sep. 19 2003, 10:42pm)Here's a few examples of the bitchiness, she told him if he goes to any gentlemens clubs or gets any strippers for his bachelor party she will not marry him??
There's your answer
Thats what I was thinking...
I concur.  But it is all about what he wants so if he has delt with it this long he will probably continue to do so.  Maybe he'll wake up somme day and smell what he's stepping in.  Good luck.

Alex, that woman just aint right.
 

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I had a friend in the same situation... You described him to a T. The girl worked at his bank, and she kept tabs on him by his debit card. He bought her birthday present and before he could get to the truck, she called asking what in the hell he spent $100 on.... All I can say is make sure he knows about safe sex, as that is what did my pal in. She got pregnant and that was it, they were married 2 months later.... So sad. Just try and talk him out of it.
Chris

Oh yeah, and send a couple of strippers to the house the next time they are going to 'stay at home for the evening'
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its a twist on what happens to a co-worker every fathers day.

Send him a card that says ' Congradualtions your a father!' signed anonymous. Mail it from some other town.

You might also want to duck and cover. Cus is about to hit the fan!

I worked with this one player guy and he would get a happy fathers day card on fathersday and its not signed fron anyone.
 

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Does he want out or what? Or is he stupid and wants to hold on?? If he kinda halfway wants out, get a girl-friend from work or something to change his voicemail for him or answer his phone when he knows its her. heh heh

And by all means, keep the hat on his little man... Chicks like this like to get knocked up and throw the claws in you for 18 YEARS!
 

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Had a friend go through a similar situation and no matter what I tried to tell him he didn't want to listen. Save your friendship...keep your mouth shut otherwise he'll start to resent you for it. Eventually he'll find out whether she's worth it or not, and still value you as a friend.

Unfortunately, when in love the little head seems to call the shots!
 

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It's your duty as his friend to tell him how you feel about his situation.  If you were in his shoes, you'd want him to do the same, wouldn't you?

Take him out and have a few and tell him how you feel about his situation.  Approach it in a positive light otherwise talking trash about his girlfriend will turn him off immeditely.  Tell him you're concerned about him.  He may also be more open to listening to you with a few cold ones in his system.  It's worth a try, at worst he can keep her...at best, you may open his eyes and help him get on with his life and dump the b!tc#.  That's what I would do.  If he's your true friend, he'll appreciate your concern for his wellbeing.

Good luck and let us know what you decide.  There are alot of options from everyone...do what you think is best.  

My $.05  (extra for the rambling)  

edit: Heck, if he needs a woman to start calling him, I'll volunteer since it'll be for a good cause.
 

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If all that fails...just tell him you've been shaggin it...
Problem solved....
 

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I hope you're able to talk some sense into your friend, and hopefully save him some misery, but the sad fact is that some people want to be controlled. They think their freedom is leading them in a bad direction, so they find someone to restrain them.

That's why cults are so successful. A friend and I have been thinking for years of starting one, but it never occurred to me to build it around bitchy, bossy women.

I'll have to give it some more thought after the riding season...
 

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CBRVFR : That's why cults are so successful. A friend and I have  been thinking for years of starting one, but it never occurred to me to build it around bitchy, bossy women.
Dude...did you spend to much time in the fermentation room today?
 

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I had a friend much like this guy, he wouldn't listen, ever. His father told him, I told him a hundred times. This was when we were 21. We'd go out to go hear some music someplace and she would call, he'd immediately ask if I could find a ride home or if he could drop me off someplace. I'm like dude, we had plans. He was the most pussy whipped mofo I have ever seen. The girl was a complete bitch, 100% controlling, always nagging, bitching, spending his $. They won't listen, they'll learn the hard way.
 
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